Betty Shreve McElhatten

Betty Shreve McElhatten, author, artist and devoted mother and grandmother, died peacefully in her home on April 1, 2020, in San Diego.  

Betty was born in 1930 in Union City, Pennsylvania. Betty was the sole daughter born to Earl Shreve and Rachel Wilson Shreve, and her siblings were Wilson Shreve and Edward Shreve, both long -time Union City residents.

Betty lettered in Varsity Basketball and graduated Union City High School in 1948.    She attended Meadville City Hospital School of Nursing and graduated in 1951 as a Registered Nurse. During that time in Meadville, Betty met her husband to be, Nelson McElhatten, who grew up in Meadville and attended Allegheny College. Betty and Nelse got married in 1953 at the Trinity Lutheran Church in Meadville and shortly thereafter, moved to Philadelphia where Betty worked in the VA hospital while her husband Nelse pursued his MBA degree at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania. 

Upon graduation, Betty's husband Nelse  took a job with IBM that took them to many posts including Poughkeepsie, Pittsburgh and San Jose, until finally landing in Armonk, N.Y., in 1960 with then a family of four, having given birth to two sons, Mark and David. Betty and family lived in the idyllic community of Windmill Farm where she was very active in the art and social scene and was as a member of the Hillside Church. 

From Armonk N.Y., Betty and family moved to Paris in 1973 which served as a base for their seven-year  European travels and exploration. Betty and Nelse moved back to the U.S.  from Paris in 1979 to Dolphin Cove, in Stamford, Connecticut, where they enjoyed their home on Long Island Sound. In 1987, they moved to Rancho Bernardo a community in San Diego. During this time Betty authored and self published two books and she was also extremely active with the Arts Forum at the Rancho Bernardo Community Presbyterian Church, PEO, and many other literary functions.

Betty is survived by her eldest son Mark, of New York City, and son David, his wife Francesca, and their two sons, Dylan and Finn, all of whom reside in Marina del Rey, California. 

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made  to The Earl M. Shreve Family Fund c/o Union City Community Foundation, P.O. Box 512, Union City, PA 16438, or online at